Sometimes it’s hard to put yourself “out there”

What’s the thing you’re most scared to do? What would it take to get you to do it?

For me, I think that sometimes it’s really scary trying to put myself “out there”. It’s hard to step out of my comfort zone and be vulnerable in front of others. It’s necessary to grow and challenge myself, but it’s hard to take that leap and make myself vulnerable. I think a lot of us feel like this and it can be really daunting to take that first step. It’s normal to be afraid, and for me, I think it’s important to remember that it’s okay to take my time and go at my own pace. Even if it’s just small steps, it all adds up and eventually I’ll be doing things that I never thought I could do.

To help me overcome the fear of putting myself out there, I focus on the fact that I’m contributing. Whether it’s a thought-provoking discussion or a creative project, I’m adding something valuable to the world. When I remind myself of this, it makes it easier to step out of my comfort zone and share my own ideas. I also remember that it’s ok for my opinion to be different from others. I don’t need to worry that I won’t measure up, or that I’ll make a mistake and get embarrassed.

It’s important to recognize that fear is a natural emotion and does not have to be suppressed or ignored. Instead, it can be used as a motivator to take the necessary steps to reach the desired outcome. When fear is accepted, it can be managed and harnessed to foster courage and self-belief. Recognizing and accepting fear can also help to reduce anxiety and open up new possibilities. The key to overcoming this fear is to start small. Don’t try to do too much too soon; you don’t have to dive in head first.

Taking small steps to build confidence is a great way to overcome fear of putting yourself out there. Start small and focus on achievable goals. Break down large tasks into smaller steps and give yourself a timeline in which to accomplish each step. This will make the task of putting yourself out there more manageable. Celebrate success when you achieve each step and reward yourself for progress. Focusing on progress will help you to build confidence and develop a sense of self-esteem.

Be kind to yourself, learn from mistakes and celebrate successes. It is important to focus on learning from mistakes, as this will help you to identify what works and what doesn’t. It is also important to celebrate successes. This will help to keep motivation high and will help to maintain a positive attitude. Doing so will help to maintain a sense of confidence and the determination to keep pushing forward, even when things become difficult.

In conclusion, overcoming fear of putting yourself out there can be a daunting task for many. However, by setting small goals and doing things that make you feel comfortable, you can gradually increase your confidence and be more willing to put yourself out there. With a little bit of patience and effort, you can create a more confident and courageous version of yourself.


  1. This is a beautiful, inspiring post. Thank you for writing it. I find putting myself out there a real challenge too. I think what you said about taking small steps, taking your time and knowing what you can manage is so important. I forget that and take on too much and then get annoyed with myself when I get overwhelmed.

  2. really great thoughts and excellent points that will help a lot of others who struggle with being vulnerable . . . a tough, but potentially healing position – always a process!

  3. I initially said I’m not afraid of anything. But that’s just not true. I’m also afraid of vulnerability. I blogged a short follow-up confession about that today. So, thanks for putting yourself out there to even write this!

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